Let me try and explain why each of these questions were important to me and why I asked you to think about them:
1) Were things so bad all the time that you would rather live on the streets than be with us?
You wrote something down on a piece of paper that night and I got mad at you.... I am not going to repeat it but is that the main reason why you left? If not, I would like to know what the biggest issues are in your mind.
2) Are you doing this because you think that we don't want you with us and that we are better off with you gone?
We would not have it any other way.... We were all still getting to know each other, trying to figure out what works and what does not. We were not always (or maybe never) very good at it but it would all have worked out eventually.
3) Did we just expect to much of you and that was not what you wanted to do?
You are such a hard worker and you don't complain to much so I did not realize under how much pressure you really were. You did so well but maybe it all was just to much - also if you take what you wrote on the piece of paper in one into account it will be to much for anyone.
4) What do we have to do for you to come back home?
Please think about this very carefully and write everything down - this is the one chance that you have to say ANYTHING that you want with absolutely no negative response whatsoever......
Most kids leave home but they keep in contact with their parents. I just don't feel that this is the wthey that you should go about this. Running away from your problems does not solve them - you take then with you. At some point in your future, the issues that you did not deal with now will pop up again and who knows, maybe then there are more children involved and surely you wish a better childhood for your children than what you had to deal with and are still dealing with. I know that I have no right to give you advice, but believe me it is better to face your issues now that later....
Please just think very long and hard about each of these questions and if you really and truly decide that you did the right thing, let us know and we will call it a day and respect your decision.... BUT please, you at least need to give us a call and talk to both of us and answer a few questions before we will stop the search....
We love you very much and we miss you..
Dad and Ma